I got rid of Facebook nearly a year ago. I would describe my use then as frequent, distracted, yet silent. I didn’t post much, I had a couple of photos albums and I checked it far too many times a day.
Why did I get rid of it? I was started to loathe its constant presence. I was becoming aware that my checking it, bringing it up on my phone and scrolling through old posts was now unconscious. Sort of the way I’ll look at my phone for the time, turn it off, put it down, and have to look at it again 15 seconds later because I didn’t actually register the time the first time.
Every once in a while I would go through my list and remove people I didn’t see as adding to my life. I think I got it down to just under 100 and still felt I had excess. I wasn’t happy with what I felt was artificial interaction that Facebook provided. I also didn’t like how it was making me feel.
I had just finished university in July and was job-hunting while working at a tourist trap chocolate store downtown. Looking at the successes of my peers kind of chipped away at my self-esteem. After a while I realized it wasn’t adding anything to my life and was in fact taking a little away.
I feel as though Facebook is a curated collection of moments, feelings and achievements. The general consensus being you post something you want to share with people, the exciting moments, trips, milestones all curated to a central spot. I’m not going to try to simplify Facebook because it’s a different form of communication. It’s the online version of the shopping mall, market, Roman bath house. But for me, it was becoming excessive and artificial.
I will admit I wanted to remove it earlier but I had been in school and it was handy for group meetings and planning. After school was done I felt more than willing to let it go.
I wanted to simplify my life and give myself a chance to feel good about the things I’ve accomplished and the direction I was headed in my life and what I was surrounding myself. I didn’t make a statement, I just deleted it. Some of my friends noticed right away and asked where I’d gone. Others took some time and I still get the occasional ‘do you not have Facebook anymore?’
Those I talk to I talk to. Those I don’t I don’t. It’s simple. I like it.
What do you think about Facebook? Have you ever deactivated your account and if so did you go back? Why? What’s your preferred form of social media?